The two of youSettling

“What do you hope this baby learns from watching the two of you?”

Why this question

How you argue and repair. How you divide the load. How you speak about each other in the next room.

Where it leads

They will study you for years. What's the one lesson you most want the watching to teach?

If you’re parenting solo

Solo version: what do you hope they learn from watching you — one person, doing this, daily?

More from The two of you

“What's the shorthand you've invented — the looks across the room?”

“What do you miss about just-the-two-of-you — and what, honestly, don't you?”

“How has parenthood changed them — your partner, your co-parent?”

Rather say it than write it?

This question lives in the Save These Days app as a one-minute voice prompt — answerable one-handed, while the baby sleeps on you, kept on your own device.

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